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Watching this season of The Bachelor has been brutal. More so than usual, even. But what did I expect from a deeply racist and misogynistic franchise that cast the first Black Bachelor nearly 20 years after its start, only in response to a public outcry following the murder of George Floyd in 2020?

And yet, I still watch. I may not watch after this season, especially if Chris Harrison remains the host, but I haven’t decided. Over the last couple of years that I’ve watched the show, I’ve interrogated my reasons for doing so. I guess what I land on…

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I miss getting dressed. Like most people, I’ve taken to calling jeans “hard pants” and pretty much avoid wearing them at all costs. At this point, I really only put them on to go grocery shopping, which is also my only real big outing these days. Otherwise, I wear sweatpants, leggings, and pj pants to sit around my apartment and to walk my dog in loops around my building. I’ve become the person who wears my slippers outdoors. Most days, let’s be real, I don’t wear a bra, and forget about makeup. Literally—I’ve forgotten how to wear makeup.

Sometimes I…

Yaa Gyasi’s first book, Homegoing, was my favorite book of 2017, and one of my favorites ever, honestly. Here’s what I had to say about the book when I read it:

It’s common, these days, for novels to switch points of view from chapter to chapter, bouncing around so much you sometimes get a feeling of whiplash. With Homegoing, you don’t stay with any one character for more than a chapter, but it didn’t bother me because it’s the structure is integral to the story that Gyasi tells. Effia and Esi are half-sisters, born in different Ghanaian villages to different…

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I watched the first episode of Sex Education on a date. It was just as awkward as it sounds. The series opens with a sex scene between two teens, having sex as parents watch TV downstairs, and since the show is British, there’s nothing left to the imagination. There’s sex talk and “tits” (God I hate that word) and a shot of an empty, used condom. The guy, Adam, fakes an orgasm, which his girlfriend immediately recognizes and calls him out on. And with that, we have our first sex mystery.

Sex Education is a lot like many other teen…

How knowing your Enneagram number can tell you a lot about yourself

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You’ve likely taken the Myers-Briggs personality test for a team-building exercise at work or school and if you’re like me, you’re constantly forgetting what your type is. Too many letters! And they don’t actually stand for words that make any sense! Confusing. (For the record, I’m an ISFJ-T, and I did have to just look that up to confirm. Again.)

Personality tests can feel reductive and restricting. It feels like being pigeon-holed, and who wants that? At the same time, getting an accurate result can also feel like being seen and understood. …

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A few weeks ago, Fleetwood Mac’s 1977 hit “Dreams” entered the Billboard Hot 100 for the first time in 43 years. Though this time it was #21, not #1 as it was during its initial release, the song enjoyed its best streaming and download sales ever.

I think most of us can agree that Fleetwood Mac in general and Rumours in particular are fucking awesome. Did they ever go out of style? No. But the fact that “Dreams” is back on the charts feels like a big deal. It feels different than just a great appreciation.

And because it’s 2020…

The most soothing and delightful things I found out about the acclaimed author from her New Yorker profile

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I probably read Housekeeping for the first time in grad school. Marilynne Robinson is sort of a god in writer circles. And rightly so. The woman is a genius and her writing is revelatory—both quiet and explosive.

Anyway, I loved the book — it was unlike anything I’d ever read before. I’ve reread it since and remain blown away by the slow buildup of tension, of beauty in each image. I’ve since read Gilead, which I didn’t love as much but is a masterpiece in its own right, and a book of her essays, which I found a little too…

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I have never played Chess in my life. The few times anyone has tried to explain the rules to me, my eyes glaze over and my brain checks out. I have a mental block when it comes to strategy games—I just don’t have the patience for them. They seem boring and frustrating to me.

So when my friend Karen suggested I watch The Queen’s Gambit on Netflix, I was skeptical. But I trust her, and I’d seen mentions of the show popping up on social media followed by gushing reviews. I also needed an engrossing distraction from election week.


What would life be like if we valued friendship and community as much as we do romantic relationships?

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It’s a question I think about a lot: What if our society wasn’t built around romantic partnerships? Recently, Rhaina Cohen wondered the same thing in an article for The Atlantic, asking “What if friendship, not marriage, was at the center of life?

In the article, she tells the story of several powerful friendships in which the women (all of them are women) prioritize, or at least give the same care to, a female friend rather than their romantic partner. She writes, “Friends of their kind sweep into territory typically reserved for romantic partners: They live in houses they purchased together…

Yesterday, I became aware of a chilling trend. Caroline Moss, a writer and podcast host, tweeted just “Damn” with a photo of some “books” and their description. After I tweeted my own response, I had to do more digging.

The “books” are put out by Urban Decor Studio, which appears to be an Amazon brand (SHOCKING). Here’s the description from the Urban Decor page: “At Urban Decor Studio we design chic decorative books for your coffee tables and bookshelves. Created to be used as customizable modern interior design accessories, you can combine books of your favorite cities, dream vacation destinations…

Jill Gallagher

Editor & writer. I'm a chain reader who also enjoys shopping and cheese.

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